Today I got an email from a girl. And sadly, this is a variation of an email I get way too often. So I thought I would share my reply in hopes that it reaches other girls that feel this way…
I know you must get this question a lot but I was wondering how do you keep your self confidence so high? I’m almost 24 years old and I’m a size 22 and sometimes I can’t even look at myself in the mirror and sometimes this effects my relationship because my boyfriend will call me beautiful or pretty and I will just cry and say “no I’m not I’m fat and ugly” So I’m just wondering what I should do
I think it is normal for all women to hate certain aspects of themselves and their bodies. I think it is especially hard when you are younger and trying to find your place in life. And also even harder because of how body and media obsessed our society is. We all have our own insecurities and the days when we just don’t want to get out of bed. It’s normal. The only thing you can do is push forward. Don’t allow yourself to self destruct. And don’t push away a man who obviously loves and desires you because of your own insecurities. It is so true that you can’t be loved if you can’t learn to love yourself. My best advice is to focus on the positive. Look in the mirror and instead of seeing your cellulite or your muffin top– look at your beautiful skin, or your fabulous eyebrows, or you perfect little toes, or your nice round butt. Focus on the good– even if it is the tiniest little thing. And tell the bad stuff that you will focus on it tomorrow. And then don’t ever let tomorrow come. Baby steps sweetie. Baby steps.