I too feel the same way, after four kids tour body is not the same as when you’re in your 20′s…and your reply is true..we first have to accept and love ourselves for who we are and what we look like…it’s hard yes, but not impossible

July 15, 2014 at 6:25 pm

Great post and reply! It’s not just “fat” girls who think like this also some “skinny” girls do too. My best friend is a size 00/0 xxs/xs and hates it! She has 3 kids, her youngest is 2 and her oldest just graduated high school. When she left the hospital after giving birth she left in her size 1 jeans.If she could gain some weight she would. She thinks she is so ugly and I have to remind her that she is beautiful. She gets crap for being so skinny, but what people don’t realize is she has a very rare type of cancer that attacks the stomach, kidneys, and adrenal gland. She 1 out of 30 known cases in the WORLD and there is no known cure. Because of surgeries to remove tumors from her stomach, it is now the size of a golf ball. If she gets another tumor, she’ll have no stomach left. Her adrenalin is constantly high. Kind of like being scared all the time. She has a very high risk of having a heart attack because of her adrenalin pumping constantly. I tell all of you this, so that people can understand that all women are critical of themselves. We all need to change our mind set. There is beauty in EVERYONE! It doesn’t matter your shape, size, color,or age. As Cherry says, baby steps are all you need!

July 16, 2014 at 10:16 am

I am really glad that you are tackling this issue. I am impressed how many female models and actresses are doing this as well. Many women look to you gals as inspiration and unfortunately, also look to you as the standards to hold ourselves in comparison to. I am glad when people like you step out and provide a message that it’s important that we love who we are when we look in the mirror. No matter how much we strive to attain perfection, there is no way we are ever going to look exactly like you (or any model or actress) and we need to learn to be happy with who we ARE. Not just our “outsides,” but our insides too. I think that beautiful women such as yourself provide inspiration for us to try to look our best. As you mentioned in your reply to one of your followers, we need to start identifying what is RIGHT with us, rather than focusing on what is “WRONG” with us. I was blown away the other day when I was watching some Photoshop tutorials and got to see just how much models in magazines and online don’t even really look like the pictures that we see because all of their “imperfections” are removed. Most of us don’t know that. We don’t know that the pimples, the cellulite, the skin color irregularities and extra bulges and weight can be removed with the click of a mouse. Or maybe we do, but when we see those pictures, we don’t process that that is what has been done. I admire you for encouraging women to see their own beauty and their own worth. It makes you, an already outwardly gorgeous woman an even more beautiful woman. You are a goddess for reaching out to support and uplift women around you. Thank you for being a decent human being.

July 17, 2014 at 8:15 am